Learning to Say “I’m Sorry”
I’m sorry: two powerful words that can feel too hard or too awkward to say sometimes. While we try to teach our kids the importance of an honest apology, we may struggle with this action ourselves. If “I’m sorry” doesn’t roll off your tongue when an apology is called for, the following tips can help: Give yourself some space. You may not be ready for an immediately apology and that’s ok. Take some time to cool off and then examine the issue and what you might have done differently. Acknowledge the issue. Maybe you’re apologizing for being late, for losing your temper or to help heal a relationship – when you acknowledge what you’re apologizing for (to yourself and the other person), you take ownership and responsibility.
Say it. Swallow your pride and simply say “I’m sorry.” There may never be a perfect time or place, but you will probably feel better once the words are out. Make this a habit and your relationships will benefit. Make amends. If you forgot your niece’s birthday, spend some extra time with her to make up for it. If you said something hurtful to your spouse, try to focus on genuine compliments and kind words. Whether with words or actions, make sure that your apology rings true.“It’s easy to be stubborn or focused on all the reasons not to apologize, but a genuine ‘I’m sorry’ can definitely go a long way,” added Dr. Kellie Stecher.
